“Hatred stirs up strife,
but love covers all offenses.”
“The one who states his case first seems right,
until the other comes and examines him.
The lot puts an end to quarrels
and decides between powerful contenders.
A brother offended is more unyielding than a strong city,
and quarreling is like the bars of a castle.”
“Good sense makes one slow to anger,
and it is his glory to overlook an offense.
A king’s wrath is like the growling of a lion,
but his favor is like dew on the grass.” Proverbs 10:12; 18:17-19; 19:11-12
“If the anger of the ruler rises against you, do not leave your place,
for calmness will lay great offenses to rest.” Ecclesiastes 10:4
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful. it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8
The myriad of biblical mentions of offenses given and received is evidence of the intrusion of sin on the human heart. Pride, hatred, jealousy, and anger foment strife and offense, while love is a balm on any sore. Wisdom is the application of reasonableness and good sense, stemming from a willingness to prefer others in love and grace. (Romans 12:10)

To put offenses to rest takes deliberately acknowledging our own offenses to Christ. Every dismissal of His Spirit, harsh word spoken, refusal of need, chill of heart, superior smirk, broken confidence, disdain of the unfortunate, caustic comment, irreverent thought, flippant prayer, thoughtless comment, careless choice or selfish indulgence, is a condescending slap in His holy face, a blemishing of His portrayal among men. While any such action can never diminish His glory or undermine His power, it can offend His splendor and righteousness. Do we comprehend the weight of what He bore for our sake on Calvary, and feel the grief? Will we search our hearts and own our guilt? (Psalm 139:23-24)
When we soberly grasp all Christ has done for us, the offenses borne and penalty paid on our behalf, we will have no room for offense ourselves. If we understand and are grateful for His taking on our reproach, we will make no room. If we’re living the Christ life, every time we receive blows, we’ll see them transferred to our Savior on the cross. It’s through this assimilation that we can count it a blessed joy to share His sufferings. (Psalm 69:9; Isaiah 53:3-7; Matthew 5:10-12; Galatians 2:20; Philippians 3:10)
Where have we caused offense? What steps will we take to prevent their repeat, and to repair the fracture we have caused? Where have we been offended? Do we stew in touchy sensitivity, or release hurt with grace and reconcile? The Lord takes all offenses seriously, and so must we. He laid down His life so we can lay down our arms. (Matthew 5:23-24; 18:15-17; Ephesians 4:32)
“When I survey the wondrous cross
on which the Prince of glory died,
my richest gain I count but loss,
and pour contempt on all my pride.” ~Isaac Watts (1707)
Lord, help me put every offense on the cross.









